"Women who are attracted to other women and are in relationships with them violate the standard global norms of compulsory heterosexuality. Thus, lesbians world-wide are subjected to gender-related and homophobic violence. For instance, according to a report by the Human Rights Watch, young lesbians in the United States “do not experience sexism and homophobia as separate events; instead, the two forms of harassment are mutually reinforcing. It is simply impermissible, according to rigid rules of social behavior, for girls to reject boys.” Because lesbian girls and women are subjected to the double whammy of being both female and nonconforming in their sexual orientation they are discriminated against severely, including being subject to peer and family rejection, harassment, job and housing discrimination, and physical assault, rape, and murder. The true extent of hate rimes against lesbians is currently unknown, but the information available suggests that such crimes are all too common in the Western world. For instance, in a study from Australia, many lesbians reported that they were sexually assaulted because of their sexual orientation by gang members, strangers, and acquaintances; 70% reported physical abuse, threats of violence, or verbal abuse in a public place because of their sexual orientation."
— Sourcebook on Violence Against Women by Claire M. Renzetti
"No business which depends for existence on paying less than living wages to its workers has any right to continue in this country."
— Franklin D. Roosevelt (via bspolitics)
"When you find yourself drowning in self-hate, you have to remind yourself that you weren’t born feeling this way. That at some point in your journey, some person or experience sent you the message that there was something wrong with who you are, and you internalized those messages and took them on as your truth. But that hate isn’t yours to carry, and those judgments aren’t about you. And in the same way that you learned to think badly of yourself, you can learn to think new, self-loving and accepting thoughts. You can learn to challenge those beliefs, take away their power, and reclaim your own. It won’t be easy, and it won’t happen over night. But it is possible. And it starts when you decide that there has to be more to life than this pain you feel. It starts when you decide that you deserve to discover it."
— Daniell Koepke (via inkdroptheory)
(Source: internal-acceptance-movement, via disabledbyculture)
Most girls are relentlessly told that we will be treated how we demand to be treated. If we want respect, we must respect ourselves.
This does three things. Firstly, it gets men off the hook for being held accountable for how they treat women. And secondly, it makes women feel that the mistreatment and sometimes outright violence they face due to their gender is primarily their fault. And thirdly, it positions women to be unable to speak out against sexism because we are made to believe any sexism we experience would not have happened if we had done something differently.
I cannot demand a man to respect me. No more than I can demand that anybody do anything. I can ask men to be nice to me. But chances are if I even have to ask he does not care to be nice. I can express displeasure when I’m not being respected. But that doesn’t solve the issue that I was disrespected in the first place.
I can choose to not deal with a man once he proves to be disrespectful and/or sexist. But even that does not solve the initial problem of the fact that I had to experience being disrespected in the first place.
As a young girl, I wish that instead of being told that I needed to demand respect from men that I had been told that when I am not respected by men that it’s his fault and not mine. But that would require that we quit having numerous arbitrary standards for what it means to be a “respectable” woman. It would mean that I am not judged as deserving violence based on how I speak, what I wear, what I do, and who I am.
— excerpt from “FYI, I Cannot “Demand” Respect From Men so Stop Telling Me That!" @ One Black Girl. Many Words. (via fajazo)
(Source: daniellemertina, via hellyeahscarleteen)
"You are personally responsible for becoming more ethical than the society you grew up in."
— Eliezer Yudkowsky (via abundance-mine)
"If you enter into healing, be prepared to lose everything. Healing is a ravaging force to which nothing seems sacred or inviolate. As my original pain releases itself in healing, it rips to shreds the structures and foundations I built in weakness and ignorance."
— Ely Fuller “The Courage to Heal” (via therapist-confessions)
(Source: therapistconfessions, via throughmotion)
"The messages you received from your family or your childhood experiences may have caused you to believe that assertiveness is unacceptable or even dangerous. Practice saying the following: I have the right to be treated with respect by others. I have the right to express my feelings and opinions. I have the right to say no without feeling guilty. I have the right to ask for what I want. I have the right to make my own mistakes. I have the right to pursue happiness."
— Nice Girl Syndrome by Beverly Engel (via speakoutbeheard)