dapperfucker:

best of “she wears short skirts”

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In Light Of The New 50 Shades of Grey Trailer

fuckyeahsexeducation:

fuckyeahsexpositivity:

E.L. James knows as much about BDSM as she would have found in a five minute Google search, which is to say that she knows precisely jack shit.

50 Shades of Grey does not depict a realistic kinky relationship, nor does it depict a healthy relationship of either the kinky or vanilla variety.

It is a Twilight fanfic, and has all the elements of Edward and Bella’s abusive relationship with kink added for extra flavor. Just as Edward and Bella are not a healthy or realistic couple, neither are Christian Grey and Anastasia Steele.

Christian Grey is an abuser who manipulates a young woman with zero knowledge of BDSM into a relationship with him. He knows she is ignorant of what a healthy BDSM relationship looks like, and uses this to:

  • ignore and override her attempts at negotiation,
  • play without a safeword (since she doesn’t know that they exist),
  • create a false dichotomy of “either we’re kinky my way or we just don’t have sex at all,”
  • threaten and stalk her,
  • rape her,
  • prevent her from discussing her relationship with anyone other than him,
  • and control aspects of her personal life, including what car she drives, what medications she takes, and how she spends her free time.

This is not BDSM. This is not sexy. This is abuse.

Using 50 Shades as your basis for how a kinky relationship works (for critical or practical purposes) is like treating Titanic: The Legend Goes On as a historical documentary. Don’t do it.

—BB

I was hoping that we’d be over the 50 shades frenzy, but I’m sure the new movie will make it crop up again, so here’s a reminder that it does not depict a health relationship or a BDSM relationship.

gaywrites:

Supermodel Andreja Pejic, known in the fashion industry for her stunning and often androgynous modeling of both men’s and women’s clothing, has come out as a transgender woman.

Pejic says she will only model women’s clothing from now on, and reportedly has the full support of her friends, family and agency.

Pejic said in a statement, “To all trans youth out there, I would like to say respect yourself and be proud of who you are. All human beings deserve equal treatment no matter their gender identity or sexuality. To be perceived as what you say you are is a basic human right.”

She also told Style.com, “I figured out who I was very early on—actually, at the age of 13, with the help of the Internet—so I knew that a transition, becoming a woman, was always something I needed to do. But it wasn’t possible at the time, and I put it off, and androgyny became a way of expressing my femininity without having to explain myself to people too much.”

Amazing! Congrats to her! 

10 Hilarious And Historical Sex Scenes From Lesbian Pulp Fiction

autostraddle:

10 Hilarious And Historical Sex Scenes From Lesbian Pulp Fiction

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Lesbian pulp novels were around in the 1950s and ’60s and were notorious for featuring suggestive covers, tragedy and tons of smut. Sold in train stations, drugstores and newsstands or mailed out like magazines and named for the low quality of the paper they were printed on, these novels depicted the possibility of queer relationships, but also suggested that if anyone pursued such a relationship…

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teacupnosaucer:

neptunain:

heteronormativity for dummies or, “why homophobes aren’t the only problem”

You will not believe the shit I get for correcting people when they talk about my daughter like this. Just stop fucking assigning sexualities to babies jfc straight people

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"Those seething with so much rage and xenophobia that they’d hurl ugly epithets in the faces of children fleeing bloody violence in Central America bring shame to the whole nation. But the response of mainstream America hasn’t been much better."

There Is No Border Crisis: There Are Frightened Children, Fleeing Death (via feministlibrarian)

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its-a-girl-nickel:

90sprincess:

eat-those-words:

ladyazura:

Rape Culture? What is this “Rape Culture” you speak of?Seriously though, this is terrifying. God forbid I wear a skirt outside — I’m just ASKING   to be raped if I do that.

The 58% statistic actually terrifies me more than any other. Suddenly change the word and you don’t care? 
No one will ever be able to convince me that words hold no power.

this makes me sick to my stomach with anger and fear

I’d like to see where these statistics came from, but it seems pretty accurate to me. :/

These stats are in Margo Maine’s book Body Wars, cited from Robin Warshaw’s 1988 book I Never Called It Rape.

its-a-girl-nickel:

90sprincess:

eat-those-words:

ladyazura:

Rape Culture? What is this “Rape Culture” you speak of?

Seriously though, this is terrifying. God forbid I wear a skirt outside — I’m just ASKING   to be raped if I do that.

The 58% statistic actually terrifies me more than any other. Suddenly change the word and you don’t care? 

No one will ever be able to convince me that words hold no power.

this makes me sick to my stomach with anger and fear

I’d like to see where these statistics came from, but it seems pretty accurate to me. :/

These stats are in Margo Maine’s book Body Wars, cited from Robin Warshaw’s 1988 book I Never Called It Rape.

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bisexual-community:

ihaventfinishedyet:

 Note: The REAL Piper of Orange is the New Black has clearly stated, "Well, you know, I’m bisexual so, I’m a part of the gay community.” Additionally she has pointed out that she came out at "either 18 or 19", and "had relationships with many, many women before I met Nora and after I met Nora."

So viewers should be aware that it was a "creative decision" of the shows writers, producers + NetFlix to minimize and erase the character’s actual + stated bisexuality by never using the "B-Word", turning her instead into a tired bisexual trope. This should not be viewed as at all realistic.

IRL Piper Kerman is a strong, interesting, out bisexual women in a different gender marriage who participates in her LGBT community and works hard for prison reform.

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"Intersex babies are not having difficulty with sexual identity or self-image. The parents are, and parental anxiety about the appearance of a child’s genitals should be treated with counseling, not with surgery to the child."

— Elizabeth Weil (via reproductivejusticeatsfsu)

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throughmotion:

nobullshit-femmeadvice:

Ruby and O answer two questions about butch women, swoon a lot, give several book recommendations, and talk about class. Enjoy!

here is ruby and me rambling about butches in a historical but mostly swoony sort of way.

I recommend watching this video if you want to learn some US queer butch herstory. Ruby and O talk about classism, power, and visibility regarding butch women from both academic and personal perspectives.

The aesthetic in itself comes out of oppression.

Books mentioned:

the development discourse is defined by the west, which explains both its failure and survival, because all old white dudes care about is keeping the capitalist world-system intact

lolmythesis:

Development and International Relations (MA), Aalborg University

More like Lol My Undergraduate Career as an International Development Major

The politics of outer space cooperation is a lot like Mean Girls, and America is the meanest girl of them all.

lolmythesis:

International Relations, The University of Melbourne

'Handshakes in Space: Explaining Great Power Space Cooperation'

slayboybunny:

dont ask me for relationship advice because i will always just tell you to break up w/ them and throw their shit in a dumpster because i do not understand the concept of allowing anyone to treat you poorly this is a zero tolerance zone 

I have very high standards of safety and respect for my friends, so if it looks like someone is treating them poorly, I’m usually the person that pushes them to question that behavior.

It really isn’t about people allowing problematic behavior to occur, it’s about people taking advantage of tolerance for mistreatment and conditioning others to endure it.

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