"hate breeds hate" = "i am attempting to absolve my guilt as a privileged person by shifting the blame to you, the marginalized person, for your own oppression, and thereby invalidating your anger at having your life controlled by a system that privileged people put in place to disadvantage you in several areas"
The dichotomy of feminine Sansa and her tomboy little sister, Arya, coupled with the modern tendency to champion a misunderstanding of feminism in the form of “strong women” only, erroneously causes many readers and viewers to assume that Sansa is somehow in the wrong from the very beginning. They view her through the misconception-colored glasses of “femininity=weakness”, and assume she is weak, soft, and shallow.
Despite the wishes of fanboys everywhere, Sansa Stark is here to stay, and may be one of the most important characters in political-fantasy to date. The young girl, trained in courtesy and domestic arts, began coming of age, gaining political awareness, and fighting for her own survival before many other characters in this series, and has the potential to become the most powerful player of “the game of thrones” in Westeros."
healthy polyamorous: 3 people all in a happy relationship \o/
unhealthy polyamorous: joe loves becky and jim. becky is not comfortable sharing joe with jim, but stays quiet anyway.
not a polyamorous: joe has 4 girlfriends. shhhh. they dont know.
more healthy polyamory: joe is in a relationship with becky. joe is also in a relationship with jim. jim and becky don’t date, but are friendly with each other and both happy with the other dating joe.
some more healthy polyamory: joe is in a relationship with becky. becky is also dating marie, sleeping with mark and lindsey, and occasionally topping suzanne. joe is not dating any of these people, but is comfortable with becky’s involvement with them. joe is also interested in jim, pending becky’s approval.
even more healthy polyamory: becky is in a relationship with joe. while they have never been polyamorous before, their relationship is strong and they’d like to include more people. they sit down and talk about it, and joe decides that he’d like to approach jim as a potential partner. becky thinks this is a great idea—or is skeptical, but agrees to have dinner with jim and joe to form an opinion.
unhealthy polyamory: becky and joe are in a monogamous relationship that’s on the rocks—but if they can just bring in a cute bisexual girl, the relationship will be completely repaired!
super-unhealthy polyamory: joe makes the relationship about forcing becky to choose between him and marie. when she chooses to spend time with marie instead of him, joe makes her feel like shit.
polyamory comes in all shapes and sizes. while the first example is great, it assumes a universal model. I wanted to expand the model a bit!
when straight girls rave about some picture of a guy and show me all i see is this
and wonder how people are sexually attracted to them
we’re equating a relationship with ownership